Chit-chat

Hasil kesimpulan dari chatting antara gw dan Bang Raly adalah sepertinya saat ini gw mengalami kelebihan informasi tentang banyak hal. Hal yang seharusnya ga perlu diketahui tapi selalu dicari. Ini beneran nyambung dengan apa yang gw baca beberapa hari lalu tentang simplicity. Simplify the life because it is already complicated enough. Setidaknya itu yang gw sadari sekarang. Kenapa nyambung? Karena bukannya mempelajari hal-hal yang matter, gw malah mencari info dan mempelajari hal yang sia-sia. Misalnya mantengin timeline facebook, buka path berapa jam sekali, chatting di jam kerja, baca berita politik Indonesia yang semakin hari makin buram, dan banyak hal ga penting lainnya. Why do I have to dig information that doesn’t matter? Shouldn’t I focus on something that brings benefit to me (and others)? I meant gw saat ini dengan pikiran sadar ga akan bisa merubah dunia, tapi ini bukan berarti gw ga bisa melakukan hal yang bermanfaat. Iya kan? Itu yang harusnya gw cari bukan malah berita-berita ga jelas.

Selain tentang overload informasi, berbincangan gw juga membahas tentang kesuksesan. Pikiran gw penuh dengan ide-ide tapi tanpa eksekusi. Mikir ide itu gampang ya (walau ga tau itu ide briliant atau ga). Tapi eksekusi, waduh itu susahnya minta ampun. Perlu motivasi dan tekad yang kuat. Cara yang ditempuh oleh orang-orang sukses itu berbeda. Every person has his own success story. Tapi buat gw pasti ada hal-hal dasar yang sama dari mereka misalnya pantang menyerah, disiplin, kerja keras, dan lainnya. Di balik cerita sukses mereka pasti ada cerita kegagalan yang tidak terekspos oleh media. Kadang kala selain mengetahui cerita sukses, ada perlunya mengetahui juga cerita kegagalannya agar bisa 100% paham kalau sukses itu bukan hal yang instant. Ya kan? Sungguh chatting kali ini sangat berbobot. 😀

The Science Of Simplicity: Why Successful People Wear The Same Thing Every Day

Have you ever thought about how much time you likely waste deciding what to wear in the morning? It’s probably made you late to school or work more times than you can count.

We waste so many precious moments concerning ourselves with frivolous details. An outfit will not change the world, it probably won’t even change your day.

This is not to say that fashion isn’t important, as it has an immense impact on culture and, in turn, the direction of society.

Indeed, fashion is where art, culture and history intersect. If we look at the 1960s, for example, the way people dressed was very much a reflection of the counterculture movement and the anti-establishment sentiments of the era.

Simply put, clothes can tell us a lot about sociology.

Yet, at the same time, we’ve arguably become an excessively materialistic and superficial society. Undoubtedly, there are greater things to worry about than clothes.

Similarly, as the great American author Henry David Thoreau once stated:

Our life is frittered away by detail.

…Simply, simplify.

In essence, don’t sweat the small stuff. Make your life easier by concentrating on the big picture.

Correspondingly, a number of very successful people have adopted this philosophy in their daily routines.

Decision Fatigue: Why Many Presidents And CEOs Wear The Same Thing Every Day

Whether you love or hate him, it’s hard to argue against the notion that President Obama has the most difficult job in the world. As the leader of the most powerful country on the planet, the president has a lot on his plate.

Regardless of what he does, he will be criticized. Simply put, he’s got a lot of important things to think about beyond his wardrobe.

This is precisely why President Obama wears the same suit every single day. Well, almost every day, we can’t forget about the time the Internet exploded when he wore a khaki suit. Although, that probably says less about him and more about us.

The majority of the time, however, Obama wears either a blue or gray suit. In an article from Michael Lewis for Vanity Fair, the president explained the logic behind this routine:

‘You’ll see I wear only gray or blue suits’ [Obama] said.

‘I’m trying to pare down decisions. I don’t want to make decisions about what I’m eating or wearing. Because I have too many other decisions to make.’ He mentioned research that shows the simple act of making decisions degrades one’s ability to make further decisions.

As Stuart Heritage puts it for the Guardian, “Barack Obama has pared his wardrobe down to such a degree that he can confidently walk into any situation and make decisions that directly impact on the future of mankind.”

The president is not alone in this practice. The late, great, Steve Jobs wore his signature black turtleneck with jeans and sneakers every single day.

Moreover, Mark Zuckerberg typically wears a gray t-shirt with a black hoody and jeans when seen in public. Similarly, Albert Einstein reportedly bought several variations of the same gray suit so that he wouldn’t have to waste time deciding what to wear each morning.

This is all related to the concept of decision fatigue. This is a real psychological condition in which a person’s productivity suffers as a result of becoming mentally exhausted from making so many irrelevant decisions.

Simply put, by stressing over things like what to eat or wear every day, people become less efficient at work.

This is precisely why individuals like President Obama, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg and Albert Einstein decided to make life easier by adopting a monotonous wardrobe.

Obviously, as these are some of the most successful and productive individuals in history, they are on to something.

Make Life Simple

Indeed, having a diverse collection of clothing is overrated. We waste so much time worrying about things that have no substantial consequences, and don’t even realize how easily we could change this.

This is exactly why President José Mujica of Uruguay rejects conformity and refuses to wear a tie, stating:

The tie is a useless rag that constrains your neck.

I’m an enemy of consumerism. Because of this hyperconsumerism, we’re forgetting about fundamental things and wasting human strength on frivolities that have little to do with human happiness.

He’s absolutely right. The vast majority of us are guilty of obsessing over material things. When it comes down to it, they bring no real value to our lives. True fulfillment is acquired by going out into the world and fostering palpable and benevolent changes.

Buying a new pair of shoes might make you feel more confident in the short-term, but it will not enrich your life in the long-term.

Undoubtedly, the world would be an extremely boring place if we all wore the same exact thing every day.

Yet, we might all consider simplifying our lives a bit more by reducing the amount of time we spend thinking about pointless aspects of our day. In the process, one might find that they are significantly less stressed, more productive and more fulfilled.

Life is complicated enough, don’t allow the little things to dictate your happiness. Simplify, simplify.

You can read original source from ELITE DAILY.

Opung

Entah gimana dulu gw dididik oleh kedua orang tua, intinya gw dan opung (sebutan kakek nenek suku Batak) hanya 2 atau 3 kali bertemu sepanjang hidup gw. Nelpon? Bisa dihitung setahun berapa kali. Apakah gw cucu tidak berbakti? Gw rasa tidak. Ada banyak faktor yang menyebabkan gw dan opung sangat jarang berkomunikasi. Jelas karena faktor jarak. Opung tinggal di kampung, Habatu, Siantar, Sumatera Utara. Gw? Dari kecil sampai SMA ada di Kalimantan Selatan. Zaman gw kecil tiket pesawat sangat mahal. Gw pernah ke kampung di tahun 2000. Semua perjalanan di tempuh berhari/hari. Mulai dari Kotabaru ke Surabaya naik kapal. Dari Surabaya ke Jakarta naik mobil travel dilanjutkan naik kapal ke Medan (lupa nama pelabuhannya). Dari pelabuhan dilanjutkan naik bus ke kampung. Panjang kan? Seingat gw, perjalanan ini lebih dari 4 hari dari Kotabaru sampai kampung. Kesimpulannya: jauh. Zaman sekarang ada pesawat tapi… Ya sudah lah. Gw sekarang ada di Korea.
Faktor lain kenapa gw sangat jarang bertemu dengan Opung adalah faktor keluarga. Persoalan keluarga gw Papi-Mama-Opung-gw, itu kompleks. Salah satunya faktor agama. Pengen tau? Nanti aja gw ceritakan. Tapi walau pun gw jauh dan jarang bertemu, ketika gw nelpon dan dapat kabar kalau Opung lagi sakit, gw merasa prihatin. Ah, Opung, sudah setua itu ternyata tapi masalah hidup masih aja ada. Kenapa anak-anaknya masih aja memberikan masalah di hari tuanya? Apa salah Opung? Apa Opung salah mendidik anaknya? Gw ga bisa judging. Gw juga ga menyalahkan Opung atau anak-anaknya. Gw hanya berharap, gw bisa bertemu Opung suatu saat nanti. Opung yang tadi gw telpon dan bilang “Opung sudah ga bisa melihat, cuman samar-samar. Umur Opung sudah 75. Ade kapan pulang kampung? Semoga Opung sehat ya, jadi bisa ketemu” Ya, walau pun gw jarang bertemu dan berkomunikasi, Opung tetap lah Opung gw. Opung, ibu dari Papi.

Lesson learned

Ketika semua masalah datang bertubi-tubi dalam satu waktu, maka membuat daftar tingkat prioritas adalah jalan terbaik. Karena satu orang akan sulit menyelesaikan semua masalah bersamaan. Maka tidak lah heran jika mengatur prioritas adalah kemampuan yang wajib dimiliki.

Feeling of being adults

The continuation of feeling of getting older is still existed. The older, the more responsibility. Being single and married (or responsible for family matters) are totally different. When we are single, having no money is not too much worried. However, when we are married, having no money is totally disaster. I am not debating about how important money is, I am merely emphasizing money does matters. Period.

I may say that being single we can do everything we want to do with every risk it takes. Just do it. We can go around the world without any hesitation. Just go for it. I neither say by being married we are being afraid, we just think more about people that we take care of. We are not afraid of being poor, we just don’t want to see our beloved one suffered. We are not afraid to work hard because we want the best for our beloved one. Now, I realize it, the feeling of being adult.

Book or e-book?

I have been constantly buying a book per month recently; an English one since I couldn’t read Korean and it is hard to find an Indonesian version here. However, an English version is a bit pricey. It doesn’t mean I couldn’t afford it but, you know, it is pricey. If I can spend less, why I have to pay more, right?  So that I am trying to reduce the cost by purchasing an e-book.

I have never experienced purchasing an e-book for my own but for the sake of my friend, I have bought one using Kindle. Now, the idea of buying an e-book comes up because there is a book that I really want to read but it is more expensive while the e-book offers a half price (I need to save more money, haha). I couldn’t make a decision yet, for now (even though I founded pdf file online for free 😀 ). Well, I love the smell of every paper on a new book. It is addictive. It gives vibes that I couldn’t explain. Also, I like collecting books for my library in the future. However, collecting some e-books never give me disadvantage, right? Since all the things are almost online. I can read my e-books online anywhere and anytime. The book? It is a bit heavy, I need to bring it anywhere and anytime if I want to read it, it is a bit uncomfortable I guess. I hope these are not excuses. The main reason is I don’t want to spend more money. Do I have to choose purchasing an e-book this time? Hmm, I think so. Anyway, do you prefer a book or e-book? Please let me know, people!